I havr a meter. For the second time in my life it's a good one!
But what to test without a wiring diagram from the BOL? The best I can think of in my lunch break is a temporary wire with a 1/4" spade on it stuck into the relay coil connector, via a resistor (or the relay coil itself) and the test meter and onto a 12V live somewhere, then let it heat up until the fan should be running (95 °C?) and see whether the ECU pulls ot low and the meter shows current flow. If it doesn't, try the other terminal. If one works, I can patch the other one live for now. If neither works, either the ECU is faulty or the wire from it.