You'd be surprised how many cars have issues with headlight plugs, with standard globes in them.
However, running 100/90w globes isn't advisable in a car with such a small gauge wiring harness to the globes. Your plugs have melted due to the excess heat produced by the globes themselves and the extra current draw through the conductors.
Replacing the plugs with better ones (you can get ceramic plugs with a high temp plastic outer shell) only means you're not going to melt the plug or the 20cm of wire that came with it. The rest of the circuit is still at risk...
Touch the headlight fuses after getting home one night with the headlights on. I bet they're pretty warm. I've seen plenty of melted fuse boxes due to that sort of thing as well.
My two cents:
Ditch the 100/90 globes (that's ancient technology anyway)
Buy some "+100" globes. I believe Philips makes them.
They draw the same power (55/60w) with 100% more light output.
They look better (whiter light) last longer and outperform the 100/90's.
And as a nice bonus, they won't destroy your vehicles lighting circuit.
Obviously you'll still have to replace the plugs.
So you can still take the risk with the 100/90's if you so desire.